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Posted by Helen on April 10, 2010 at 3:57 PM

April 10, 2010

My apologies for the delay in updating the blog. My computer got highjacked by a virus and needed some professional maintenance. It’s all good now.


It’s been a busy few weeks and Oscar is adjusting very well to the Beach life. He’s been keeping his mom and dad on their toes and enjoying meeting his extended family and new friends. He especially LOVES his Mita (grandmother in Spanish). Mita and Oscar are tight and whenever he sees her, he screams out “MITA!” Along with screaming Mita’s name, he’s screams “DOGGA whenever he sees one the street. He’s fascinated with all dogs; he even enjoyed a full facial lick by a young pup!


He enjoys eating, eating and more eating. We even have to stop him from eating too much to prevent from him from getting sick!! But, it’s great his has a great appetite.


Last weekend Oscar completely enjoyed the Beach Easter Parade! It seemed like everyone was giving him chocolates and candy. I guess with him smiling & waving to everyone while he sat on his dad’s lap, people couldn’t resist him!! Of course, mom was nervous about the big crowds and amount of sugar entering Oscar’s body. He just gave me a look which I interpreted as “Just relax mom!”


The most recent event for Oscar was his first experience swimming! And, he was a natural. At first, he stood in awe in the huge swimming complex, quietly watching other young children play in the baby pool. After a few minutes, he wanted to swim in the big pool verses the baby pool. He was determined to show me that he already knew how to swim. As a past life guard, this made me very nervous and I was happy he had life jacket on! All the other moms couldn’t believe this was his first time in a swimming pool. He freely put his head under water, held his breath and wiggled in the water like a fish. At the orphanage, he only bathe once a week. I guess it may have been the only time, he felt free? After 2 hrs of pool fun, and meeting new friends, Oscar was exhausted, ready for lunch and had a well deserved nap.


On a personal note, (moms out there, dont' laugh too hard) but being a mom is tough work!!! It’s 24/7 and all consuming! I’ve quickly realized that it takes a village to raise a child. I just can’t do it all and I need to relinquish overprotecting Oscar. I constantly experience mommy guilt which is an overwhelming feeling! Everyone around me says “Give yourself a break; you’ve only been a mom for 2 weeks!” So, yesterday, Dave and I traded off and I actually put away the mommy guilt and took a break by having a relaxing dinner with friends. Before hand, I explained to Oscar  I was going and to my surprise, he simply gave me a kiss, waved good bye and resumed eating his dinner! Maybe, he felt he needed a mommy break too!

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Reply Elyse
11:48 PM on April 10, 2010 
Hi Helen,
It sounds like Oscar it adjusting so well to his new home which is wonderful! I completely sympathize with what you are going through. Not only is being a Mom tough work but you have SUDDENLY become the Mom, not of a new born, but of a 3 year old (and a boy) who doesn't speak your lanuguage and is busy exploring and learning all new rules, boundaries and stimulations! This undertaking is incredibly hard and one of the biggest challenges a woman can take on! Let yourself be stressed at times or overwhelmed if that's what you need and don't ever beat yourself up for it and ask for help when you can get it. I found the first three months to be the hardest with both my kids but I assure you with time it gets easier and you fall into a routine that you will feel to be your "norm". Take time for yourself when you can b/c you will be a better Mom to Oscar after you have been good to yourself (something I couldn't do b/c Leyla was terrified to be left without me until 9 months after she came home). Call or email if you need anything ok? Elyse
Reply Dani
5:59 PM on April 24, 2010 
Wonderful pictures Guys! We can't wait to see you again soon and meet little Oscar. I am so excited for you! I know the mommy guilt is constant and neverending - rest assured that you are all three in fact doing everything "right". What works one minute doesn't the next - it is all good! :o)
Great news about Jenn - Euge and Amelie too.
One month until Melanie gets here - it will be so fun to get all the kiddies together soon.